Baby Dust

We decided to try at home insemination again this cycle.

I started POAS on an OPK on CD17. I thought for sure I wasn’t going to ovulate until between CD22-CD24 as recently my cycles have been quite long. Something told me to POAS and it came up negative but I had a feeling to call our donor and ask for an insemination that night. I can’t explain it but I just knew we had to. The next day was a Friday morning (CD18) and while on my morning break at work (about 10am) I decided to POAS again and it was positive! I couldn’t believe it as I had previously had such long cycles. So of course I took another at 1130am (positive) and 3pm (positive)- Just had to make sure lol.

We inseminated again that night. Saturday morning (CD19) about 10am I took another and it was positive again so we inseminated that day about 3pm. I also had cramps this day that started about midday.

Sunday (CD20) comes and I had another positive OPK. So we inseminated that night.

Monday (CD21) and finally a negative OPK. Although we did inseminate (just to be sure lol).

I believe I ovulated on the Saturday (CD19) just because it was 24hrs after the first positive OPK and I had cramps also. But Fertili.ty Frie.nd put my ovulation at CD20 (the day after). So I don’t know. I actually didn’t temp this cycle as I wasn’t even sure if we would go ahead this cycle and also I always forget to do it lol!

So we are in the TWW again. I am either 4DPO or 3DPO and we got 5 donations this cycle.

Fingers crossed x

DPO means we are in the TTW

A quick post today to let you all know we are officially in the TTW!

I finally got my peak on both the Clearbl.ue and a normal OPK on CD23 with Fertili.ty Frie.nd putting my ovulation at CD24 which is in the normal range for me.

I am eating a piece of pineapple core from 1DPO-5DPO this cycle. Not sure if it really works or if it is just an old wives tale but hey it can’t hurt.

As of today I am officially 2DPO and now we wait….and wait… and wait!

A quick update

Just a quick stop to let you all know how this cycle is going.

Well it is now CD18 & still no ovulation! That smiley face keeps blinking at me every single day- I have been testing for 5 days now.

We are inseminating every other day until I get a solid smiley in which case we will do it twice that day. So far we have had 3 donations which is really good as normally we only get about 3 in each cycle.

I know during the time we had off I still should of tracked my cycle but it was so nice to take a break and not worry or stress about it.

Also, I am thinking about writing a how to post on how we inseminate at home.

Until then,

E.

CD14 and a flashing smile

Hi everyone 🙂

I’m back for another post this week!

As I wrote in the previous post I am currently waiting for Ovulation. I have been using the digital Clearbl.ue ovulation tests- I am in Australia and unsure if you have these overseas? Let me know in the comments if you do and if you have used these. If not here is a link to the website ->Clearbl.ue Digital Ovulation tests

Pretty much you pee on the stick and if a circle comes up it means low fertility, a flashing smile means high fertility and a solid smile means peak fertility. From about CD10 I was checking once a day at 2pm but as of today (as its CD14) I decided to check at 10am and 2pm. Well at 10am I peed on the stick and expected the usual circle but I got a flashing smile! I contacted our donor and he is happy to do x1 donation a day until the solid smile. When the solid smile comes up we will inseminate twice that day and the next. Fingers crossed we only have to do this once this year!

I have also upped my water intake and will be spending the day researching anything to aid conception (room temperature water??). And I am not sure if I have mentioned it before but I have started yoga and meditation classes- initially it wasn’t for fertility but I am sure it will be good for conception.

I will keep you updated with our donations over the next coming days, wish us luck!

E.

 

Anonymous or Known… That is the question!

I thought I would write a post about our experiences with picking our donor.

When we were first embarking on this journey I spent hours on the internet trying to find blogs, Youtube videos, chat room groups, anything really, about lesbian couples experiences in this topic and the whole TTC process. So I truly hope that if this blog is ever found by someone, who is going through what I was, then what I am about to write is helpful.

I have mentioned before that T and I ended up choosing a very good friend to be our donor (actually he is Ts best friend). But before we decided that we would ask him we had always thought we would choose an anonymous donor. Our thoughts were that T and I were the childs parents and we did not want a third party involved. When ever anyone asked us about having kids we would always rattle off some explanation about anonymous donors and how this fitted our image of what our family looked like (Side note: Why do people feel the need to ask lesbian couples quite intimate questions on donors? hmm.. curiosity?)

It wasn’t until early 2016 that T and I discussed the idea of having a known donor. We still knew that we would want to be the only parents in the childs life. But after fostering over the last two years we came to realise that our belief was that a child should know where they came from and should be given the opportunity to nurture a relationship. Now don’t get us wrong we still think that having an anonymous donor is right for most lesbian couples but in our case it wasn’t. We came to realise that love and family came in so many different forms.

So a known donor it was but who would we ask? It had been decided very early in our relationship that I would carry our child. T wanted a child but could never imagine herself pregnant. This worked out well as I had always wanted to be pregnant! So our donor would have to be similar to T. Looks didn’t concern us too much but we wanted someone who shared the same humour and personality traits as T. We realised that the only person who did was her best friend!

One night over a few beers T blurted the big question out. Of course he had to speak to his boyfriend about it as we didn’t want anyone to feel left out as this was a major life changing decision for all parties involved. Luckily it was a resounding yes and we decided that after some health checks and blood tests we would start TTC in August 2016.

We have spent about 9 months talking and talking and talking and talking this through. But we all agree on the outcome and agreement. Our agreement is this: T and I are the parents. We make all the parental decisions and the child lives full time with us. However, our donor and his boyfriend are apart of our family. The child will know that he is the donor. Our donor wants a friendship/ close bond with the child.And T and I are happy with this arrangement. Our donor who is in his thirties (Side note: I have just turned 27 and T is about to turn 30) wants a child but doesn’t want the responsibility of full time parenting.

This isn’t something to go into lightly, especially with such close friends. But we have been so fortunate after three cycles that it hasn’t affected our friendship. Who knows what the future holds or how an actual baby may effect us all but for now I feel fortunate.

I was going to talk about how we decided to do at home inseminations but I might save that for another post.

Be kind to one and other.

Until next time,

E.